Now that you have listed the areas that is causing dissatisfaction, lets dive deeper by exploring the following. For this example, we will use the scenario of someone that was being emotionally abused in their relationship and yet remained in the dynamic for an extended period.

How did I contribute to this outcome?

Consider:

Your language: What kind of language did you use? Did your words reflect a sense of empowerment or limitation? ******

<aside> 📌 Example: “Better the devil you know than the devil you don’t.”

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Your thoughts: What thoughts or beliefs did you entertain that might have influenced this outcome? Were they supportive or restrictive?

<aside> 📌 Example: “Maybe I’m overreacting- it’s not that bad.”

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Your behaviour: What actions did you take or fail to take that played a role in this outcome? Were they in line with your aspirations and values?

<aside> 📌 Example: Did you sacrifice your needs to avoid confrontation?

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Your turn…

What thoughts, words, or actions have contributed to your current situation? Please list as many as you can in the chart below.

<aside> 💡 According to neurocience, becoming aware of how your words, thoughts, and actions shape your life activates your brain's ability to rewire itself, making it easier to see evidence that you're in control and can transform your life.

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